*updated* questions that need answering. like, now.
4 / 04 / 2010**Updated** I’m pretty sure I am the worst person to be giving advice, which is why I’m kind of asking for it. It’s probably the un-aloha spirit that’s getting to me. The knowledge lingering in my brain that soon…soon my world will be work and traffic and shittiness. Yay, me. Either that or FMJL – the “J” as in Job. Or work. Hell hole? Place of sadness? Dark, snake-infested abyss? Love child of anger and insanity?
Whatever it is you call the place you basically live 5 days a week. THAT. THAT is where my mood has gone.
Because I’ll be stuck on a plane for FREAKING EVER today (and technically tomorrow, since we don’t get in until the afternoon on Monday…*sigh*)…I have two questions for you to ponder.
Also? Your answers will help me greatly in my own, personal research. Basically, you’re feeding me knowledge. And knowledge is important.
And in unrelated news, I’ve come to terms with the fact that I have no brain-to-mouth filter.
Anyhow, my potential thought provoking questions for the moment (which usually come to me when I’m doing unimportant tasks, like now, waiting on the laundry):
What do you consider a “charmed life?” As in: Wow. [insert name] REALLY have it made.
And second: If you are a parent to kids without fur and 4 legs, what is the best thing about life-with-kids versus life without?
Happy Easter (if you celebrate)!! Yay, chocolate!
Annnnnd Happy 4/4 (if you don’t)!! Yay, 50% off chocolate tomorrow!!
Life with kids is so much more entertaining than without. My two darlings keep me laughing a good portion of the time-even when they are driving me nuts. Also, and this may be a bit selfish, but there is nothing like having a little person love you with everything they’ve got because to them you are the most awesome thing in the world. ever.
However, being able to pick up and just go to a friend’s house or to the store without having to pack along kids or find a sitter is a bit more awesome, lol.
A charmed life? Hrm, I’m not really sure. I guess someone who doesn’t have money woes maybe. Life without kids is way better than life with kids. Oh wait, I wasn’t supposed to answer that one was I? Whoops!
Andrea: yah…exactly. It’s the “without” I happen to love. But I don’t exactly know the “with” soooo….a conundrum.
Jenera: the “YOU ARE AWESOMER THAN….EVERYTHING” idea…kind of intriguing…it’s like you’re perfect…until you’re, well, not.
I think that having kids just to have someone love you is kinda sad. You shouldn’t have to look for that in a child. That’s a lot of pressure on the kid too.
I think making it is having money to pay your bills, and to travel, and to whatever you want basically. I know there’s more to it than that, but from where I stand right now, that would be making it.
Breeza: never thought about it from the kids perspective…wow. Talk about high expectations…also? Slightly unrealistic.
My idea of a charmed, most excellent life is just waking up happy that it’s another day. Having something to live for, to be excited about, and that makes you feel worthwhile, no matter what it is. That’s my idea of happiness.
I dunno about kids but every time I hear one scream, I think, “yeah, my life is better.”
Maureen: it’s finding THAT thing that makes you so full of sunshine and bubbles…unless you are a perpetually happy person, which I will never understand. I may envy the incessant giddiness- but I’ll never truly understand.
Charmed life:
Someone who has enough money to afford the basics in life (rent/mortgage, utilities and especially groceries).
Being able to use vacation time for actual vacations, and not just take the pay (while continuing to work, ’cause you need the money more than you need the vacation).
Having a dishwasher. (human dishwashers excluded!)
Having real friends that don’t bolt when they’ve “tired” of your disabilities and/or money problems.
Any combination of 2 or more of these, are what I consider to be a charmed life.
Children of the 2 legged kind: (I was going to say non-furry, but realized that my Son wouldn’t qualify! Ha!)
Life without – more money, more time, more sanity
Life with – um … just the opposite.
I think all of us with kids all have some secret longing for the days when we didn’t have them, or when they’ll left the nest and we’ll once again be free. Being a parent is HARD. Much harder than you could’ve ever imagined before becoming a parent, even when you’ve been in charge of a child (sibling, etc.) since you were 10 years old. But then we get over our momentary nostalgia and longing, and our kid(s) say or do something that makes us remember why we love them so much. That’s probably the best thing about life WITH kids: those unexpected moments.
Shelli – I agree. Good, true friends are hard to find. And a no-hands-required dishwasher? Priceless.
I’d say my Mom has made it. She loves her furry (25 animals) doggy friends. She had so many adventures in life. She loves and is proud of all her children. Has grandchildren. She rapped Pants on the ground to some kid at the store and had me ROLLING laughing. To be so hip and fly at 67! She has everything she needs. I hope I am just as spunky and happy she has been in her life.
As for “regular” kids. They are so much fun. I laugh and laugh – what joy. I love my fur kids like crazy. I love my real kids the same way with all the soul in your belly.