tapioca pudding and life
1 / 20 / 2011(If you want to ask me a question…now is the time. I’ll answer on Monday)
I’ve been trying to come up with something to say that would actually mean something to you. I mean, sure, hardeeharhar…we can always come here to laugh.
If that’s why you’re here, then a quick funny for you: I made tapioca pudding yesterday for my first time ever. And in my typical recipe fail fashion, missed a step or seven…mostly the one where you are supposed to let the whole mixture of stuff - the milk and eggs and the “tapioca” etc – sit in a pan for a minimum of five minutes before you subject it to any kind of heat.
Yah. There was no sitting or resting or anything for my tapioca. Right to the hot pot for you.
This *might* have resulted in an overly obvious consistency of….well…gee. How, exactly, do you describe tapioca…without really describing tapioca?
Let’s just say Tim won’t eat it warm.
The end (of the funny)
Ok. So, I contemplated a post titled “it’s not writer’s block. it’s failure block.”
But then I went on a little adventure with Lexi and Maddie to the dog park near our house…
And I decided not to write that post.
I’ve been really, really inspired lately with pictures. I take my camera everywhere and I look for unique perspectives on ordinary objects and places everywhere. It’s like I want to run around the whole world and take pictures. Of everything.
Related sidebar: I broke my camera over the weekend by dropping it on our hardwood floors AS IT WAS OPENING. I was overly distraught. I love my little pink camera. It’s like my tiny, portable best friend.
And then last night, the doorbell rings and I’m all, “Who is at the door?” because I wasn’t expecting anyone. So, while I’m holding a barking Lexi (we cannot get her to STOP with the barking) and Tim goes to answer the door…and he comes back with a package.
I was like, “Huh? What is that?”
And Tim was totally nonchalant all, “I don’t know. Open it.”
It came with a gift note.
A brand new little pink camera.
Tim was so proud of himself…said he’d been waiting for it to be delivered all day. Apparently he ordered it the same day I broke my other one.
(So sweet, right? I know! And he’s all mine)
Anyway, where was I? Right. I’ve been getting inspired by my camera….and Colorado.
This inspiration is a great thing. It’s a wonderful feeling. But then I remember that my birthday is coming up. My twenty eighth birthday.
TWENTY. EIGHT.
My high school class is trying to plan a reunion. A TEN YEAR reunion.
If that doesn’t make a person feel old and unsuccessful, I don’t know what does.
And where am I? What am I doing? Seriously. What am I doing?
It’s like I’m just floating around….aimlessly…purposelessly. I really, really hate that feeling. I’ve come to understand that part of me feeling that way is because “who I want to be” isn’t a quick fix. It is never a quick fix. It isn’t just going to walk up to me and say, “Hi. I’m success. And here I am.” But I feel like I lack direction. I have all of these ideas…but it isn’t time to start doing “all of these ideas.” It is time to pick one and just DO IT.
The one I want to really focus on is writing…among other things like learning how to play my guitar and taking lots of pictures…and maybe sign up for a photography class.
But here we go…I don’t know what to write about. I have ideas…and thoughts…and “plans” but I just can’t seem to PICK SOMETHING AND DO IT.
I frustrate myself. Daily.
I get so wrapped up in the details it’s like I forget to see the bigger picture. I forget to see my dream. I forget to reach for it. I forget to keep it burning inside of me….to keep me inspired.
And there is so much inside of me…begging to come out!
I’m not one to talk about my feelings…ever. I try to open up…but then I feel like I’m exposing this really raw piece of me and any kind of “potential” negative that someone might say to me keeps me from speaking.
But I still try. As hard as it is sometimes.
I try.
This is why writing is so…it is so much a part of me. It’s how I communicate…how I really express what I am feeling.
Or sometimes I like to write just to tell a story.
I love being able to craft my words to make you laugh or ponder or relate my experiences, somehow, to your own life.
That is the core of what I strive for…even if only ten people read this…maybe I will make a difference.
In you.










That was the sweetest note ever. I hope there are other guys like that out here in the world for single girls, like myself.
Also, Maddie looks to be enjoying the snow, that’s very cute. I wish I could have a dog where I live.
I’m feeling much like you do right now. I feel like I’m wandering about in my life with the lights out. I have no idea where to go to find a door that will open. I guess that’s the joy of life?
Aimless? Purposeless? Yeah, I know the miserable feeling!
If you figure it out, I will literally pay you for the solution!
So if it makes you feel any better my gift to you is this:
Some just asked me if I was planning on going to my 25th high school reunion this fall. TWO. FIVE. Sigh.
Also I took my directions and threw them in the toilet and flushed like three times just to make sure they didn’t bubble back up like a cigarette butt. God what an ispiration I am today.
I think taking a photography class sounds like a plan.
And in case that came out the wrong way as per my usual foot in mouth syndrome, I mean it sounds like a fun plan.
You take gorgeous pictures. Sheesh, someone needs to hand cuff me away from my key board.
I have to say – the thought of tapioca makes me gag. BUT, The camera w/ the note is so sweet and thoughtful!
And the aimless, what-do-i-do-with-myself feeling? yeah… right there with you. I would love to take a photography class though – I think that’s a great idea!
I completely understand. I turned 28 last year and skipped my 10 year reunion. Because I feel stupid saying I still have no idea what I”m doing with my life. EVen now when people ask what I’m doing I feel stupid saying I’m writing a book! Errrr, that means no paycheck…they think I’m nuts.
Love tapioca pudding but Dustin always had to make it becuase I couldn’t. Currently I’m trying ribs, just dumped them in the crock pot. This is what happens when I have writers block and it is 3 degrees out.
oh my god, i’m melting away…what a sweet note.
28th birthday and 10year reunion? tell me about it. we’ll get through this together!!!
Cutest note and gift ever! Big points to Tim! And as for your 10 year? I had a blast at mine, actually, and even though you may not know exactly what you wanna do right now, I think you should be proud of all you have done, I mean, you moved, you have run marathons, you have a great life, what’s not to love?
I remember my 10 year reunion. It was a suckfest. Hot, crowded banquet room, terrible food, and the realization that the only people from high school that I give two shits about are the girls I still run around with today. I won’t be wasting my money on the next one.
Facebook seems to have made high school reunions unnecessary. I have a superficial look into these people’s lives all the time. And the people I really want to stay in touch with I do.
Also, I know what you mean about not being able to stick with something. The only thing I can do consistently is play WoW.
I’m 27 and my 10 year high school reunion should be at some point this year. My class was never very big on planning and I went to a small school so there might not even be a reunion. Which I’m okay with since I really have 1)no desire to see anyone I went to high school with (except those people that I still keep in touch with – but I don’t need an official reunion to see them) and 2)not enough money to get back there for a reunion.
As for reaching your dreams…career-wise, I took a 6 year loop off the main road and am just starting to get back to it. So, yes, it takes a long time, and it’s hard and it sucks (at times) but it can also be pretty awesome and self-defining and wonderful.
Look at the dude you have! March into that reunion with a great big grin, because guess what? They don’t have what YOU have, you know?!?! How sweet is he?!? Love that he got you a new bestie lens.
Also, there is a book I’m reading. A lot of things in it sound like what you write here. Talks about feeling this way and why. Email me if you want to know more and if you want me to send more of those news thingies for Tim. HA.
By the way you got picked on the caption contest as Sydney’s favorite. That’s big stuff! She’s a hip teen, ya know….
Tom’s a sweet one.
You look AWESOME. May I be shallow please? I think at a 10-year reunion, many would look at you and the sweet Tom and be consumed with envy. And making these people most of whom you’ll never see again until 10 years from now on be consumed with envy is a main point about reunion, no?
Just sayin.
Jennifer: I don’t know if that’s the joy or the frustration of life…but it IS life – apparently. Hm. Also Maddie LOVES the snow…it’s like her second best friend.
nysoonergirl: I’ll hold you to that
A Vapid Blond: I totally get it. I don’t think you managed another foot in mouth.
And I like your idea about what to do with directions.
mm: The feeling sucks…doesn’t it? And do it! Take a class!!
Shannon: how did the ribs turn out? I’ve never attempted anything with bones in a crock pot…. and I hear you on the writing thing. I get the same reactions.
franzi: Maybe you could come with me?…… when’s your reunion? I’ll definitely come to Germany.
Jolene: My eternal spark of sunshine. You are right. I have LOTS to be so, so thankful for and sometimes I forget to look at those things.
Michelle: That is my fear. Actually, the whole “Face place” group for this reunion is going on and on and on about how much there will be to drink…and “par-tayyyyy” No. Thank you.
DirtyHooker: This is probably a stupid question but: what is WoW?….
PJ: Wow. Six years. I struggle with six minutes. There may not be hope for me….
Angelia: Syd picked me?!? I feel so honored! Also, will email you.
subWOW: Hi! I miss you…as does Tim…I don’t think I married a Tom….
Also: You’re right. It is a game of shallow at those reunions.