the drought
5 / 22 / 2011***The events from Saturday, to be henceforth known as The Day of Awesome, will be posted tomorrow after I can cull through all of the pictures. It is SO worth the wait.***
“The Drought”
How often is normal?
I’m not even entirely sure how much I want to discuss Tim and my sex life…that just seems…wrong on some kind of level that I don’t even know how to quantify.
So…let’s instead talk about what you think is “normal” when it comes to hanging curtains or baking cookies or whatever catch phrase you happen to use for THAT.
Weekly? Monthly? Daily (Shannon…I’m speaking on your behalf, here…)
Tim and I have talked about the whole baby making process and what kind of…ahem…”effort” that will require. We’re not there at that point yet but we both know it’ll mean an uptick on hanging curtains. I don’t think I’m going to be super anal about it…with the ovulation watch and thermometer and calendars…and frantic phone calls all, “Get your love wand the hell home! I’m ripe!”
That just seems like over kill.
We’ll just DO IT and see what happens, no? My mom is convinced that all it takes is a bottle of wine and a night in the sack. So, whenever we start this process, we’ll have to try that method and see what happens.
She also says that lots of sex equals a girl and not as much equals a boy.
What do you think?
I don’t think the amount of getting lucky has anything to do with the sex of the baby. I don’t remember having significantly less sex when I got pregnant with either of my boys than I did when I got pregnant with my daughter. And I think the amount really just depends on how fertile you are. My family is extra fertile and each of my three children were unplanned (seriously, who would plan to have kids 11 months apart.? that’s just crazy!) And my grandma (who had nine pregnancies) used to say that my grandpa only needed to lay his pants across the bed and she got knocked up (god, I miss that woman!)
I think the amount of stress you put on the act of “getting pregnant” might seriously affect it though. So take her easy, pounce when the mood strikes you and go from there.
Also, I don’t care if the Drs say it takes 6 months to get pregnant once you stop the pill…it took me a week. Lying Drs!
♥Spot
of the pill and pregnant took my sister a month. and she had been on the pill for quite some time.
everyone’s different, everyone has their own pace and i am all for not putting too much stress on the issue. if it happens it happens. and you don’t sound like you’re all for pushing this “project” now so have fun trying!!!
If I ever utter the sentence, “Get your love wand the hell home! I’m ripe!†you have my permission to slap me.
And I can’t really tell you what’s normal. HS Marine and I barely ever get time alone… And we had just that this weekend so in less than 24 hours we power washed the deck a good three times. But we also live in fear of never being alone so we have to make up for lost time. I imagine (and fondly remember) the good ole days when I had my own place. I would say then it was 3-6 times a week. But we both get a hankering for power washing the deck more than others, I think.
I just pissed myself laughing. Are you coming here in a couple of weeks or not?
We are 3 times a week on the slow side. 5 average. We get cranky with any less. I say for the baby making process maybe crank it up a bit but dont get all stressed. There is no fun in that. Perhaps there is no norm. Wheneva it feels right. But once or twice a month? Hell, no. Then the news should be turned off and you should be trying it somewhere new. Just sayin.
Also, not to sound weird but I have this idea that we maybe baby havin at the sametime. Also, jsut sayin.
‘hanging the curtains!’ I love that phrase and uh, if we’re clocking in…I’d say 4-6 times a week for us too
(NYSoonerGirl, slap ME as well if I ever say ‘get your love wand the hell home!” LOL!)
I second Shannon’s comment – less=cranky more=happy, so why we don’t do it constantly, I’m not sure. Oh yeah, it’s working full time jobs leaves us tired and already cranky but when you carve out a few minutes for each other, it’s worth it.
Pretty sure that was just your mom’s sneaky way of letting you know how often she was gettin’ it on when you were being created.
Normal is whatever frequency you BOTH are comfortable with, and that can vary. When my wife and I got together in our early twenties, ‘normal’ was practically every night (and possibly in unusual locations). Now in our mid thirties it is maybe once or twice a week. It is the companionship that is the thing rather than the simple shagging plus having children will re-define your normal anyway. Also be wary of an all-out shagging for africa campaign to try and get pregnant, since that can easily just turn into a chore for one of you, and may actually stress you enough that you don’t conceive. Just relax and let things happen.
I am late in responding to you all….my apologies…do you even know when I have responded? That’s probably the more important question…because if not, that means I’m talking to myself…
Spot: Wow! That is some fertile soil you’ve got, there.
And your grandmother sounded like she was a wonderful person with a lovely sense of humor.
franzi: Oh, no stress. And did I say we were trying? I don’t remember saying that?….
nysoonergirl: You crack me up. Seriously. That is hysterical. Power washing….heh. And love wand…what’s so wrong with love wand?….
Shannon: Wait. What? Did you say baby? Like…wait. You with child? I need deets, please.
jobo: (I just realized I should have called it a magical wand. Because, really, if used properly, magic happens…get it??) you and M… WOW. That’s all I’m sayin.
Anne: I think you might be right about my mom…and I hear you on the full time job stress (well, Tim hears you)
sam: Agreed. On everything you said, actually. Which rarely happens.
And how in the world did this end up being about frequency?! Crazy.
I am not pregnant, just to clarify. It is a discussion like you two are discussing. Thats all the deets I’m sharing:)