I can’t tell you enough how confused people should be withall of the stuff on t.v. It makes all of this confusion easy when the married neighbors are all shocked up while the spouses are out of town. Divorce Court TV, teenage preganancy being glamourized and on and on. No wonder we are all confused. But I will tell you this. I have told you many of the things that keep me and my wife of 13 years going strong. First, we took our VOWS very serious. We have never (knock on wood) had anything that comes up that we don’t talk about including purchases (she bought a ring – she told me about it after she got it and said that she would take it back if I did not approve) I bought a chef knife for work, told her about it and then did it. We are up front with each other and it is just the way we are. COnfusion with all of the lack of family values around us: co-workers, tv, our own families can only lead to questions like what you have above, and by the way whats wrong with questions. I see this question out there a lot and pople have the scenario that – animals don’t mate for life – well many do. Many have herds and groups that hang together until death. The problem here is communication. I know I have said this before – but failure to communicate can be the source of any probelm in relationships or business. My wife and I talk about the disfunction of society when we see snooky, cheating spouses, teenage pegnant girls looking for an Oprah or book deal – what we see looks all too easy. We don’t see the hardships. We don’t see that families are being torn apart usually with kids in the middle, we don’t see the one spouse that has not seen any problems with the marriage and all of a sudden the other spouse pulls a punch out of the blue – I am not happy any more and hav not been in quite some time – welldid you ever tell your spouse back when you have those first feelings. People – you cn’t fix anything unless you know a problem exists. If you are having these thoughts yourself, which it looks like you are from reading above – have you discussed it with Tim? What does he say about his opinions on the stuff I just mentioned, have you asked him about your questions? Sounds like a cooler of something on the back porch talking about life. This week my wife and I go to Aruba. We relax, but we also catch up on some things. We retreat away from the stuff you said and get to know each other again, see which direction we are heading and figure out ways to support each other – AND laugh at the crazy things that are on tv!